After an intense school year of numbers, numbers, and more numbers (with several variables littered throughout), I read quite a lot this summer to balance life out a bit.
I started by finishing The Story of Edgar Sawtelle, which I began long ago last January. To be brutally honest -- I despised the ending. Really. I had a throw-the-book-across-the-room-and-say-"Are-you-kidding-me?!" reaction to the ending. It's a long and intriguing story that I felt had somewhere to go...and then went nowhere. I don't recommend it, and as you can see from this blog, that's rare.
To make myself feel better, I turned to authors I trusted, authors I knew I could follow into a world of thought and new ideas. I started with Brene Brown and her book Daring Greatly. I first heard of Brene when I watched her TED talk "The Power of Vulnerability," and I instantly connected with what she had to say. Since then, I also heard her speak at the 2013 Global Leadership Summit and watched her second TED talk, "Listening to Shame." In her talks and her book, she explains the research she's done on living a wholehearted life, on shame, and on vulnerability. An excellent summary of her thoughts can be found in a Zen Pencils comic that quotes her talk. Brene talks about shame in our culture and how it impacts all the areas of our lives; more importantly, she gives insight on how to deal with and combat it. One section on perfectionists hit particularly close to home, and I underlined countless passages throughout the book regarding how to promote vulnerability as a leader -- in my classroom, department, school, and church. This is a book I'll go back to time and again for reminders on how to show up and let myself be truly seen, all the while supporting those around me to do the same.
And as I so often do, I turned yet again to Louise Erdrich -- this time, to her novel Shadow Tag. This is perhaps Louise's most chilling story, one of a broken marriage, damaged familial relationships, distorted feelings and connections that are, in my opinion, misinterpreted as love. The ending gives a new perspective on the entire story, though, one that either makes it more uncomfortable and sad or gives it more meaning, I'm not sure which. Louise's voice is different yet familiar in this story, for which I am glad. As always, she paints beautiful images of the characters' emotions and deepest thoughts, and still gives us an image of the physical surroundings in a way that draws me to that particular place and time.
Just today I finished The Red Tent by Anita Diamont. In a unique voice, Dinah, sister of Joseph and daughter of Jacob of the Old Testament, tells us more than one could surmise merely from the thirty-one verses of Scripture she's given in the Bible. "Given" is a generous term -- she is alluded to, in reference to a string of horrendous crimes, but she never actually comes out of the shadows. I enjoyed learning more about the culture of that time and area, never having thought of how Jacob's God was virtually unknown to the family he married into. Diamont gives a voice to a woman otherwise silent, and she gives shape to a life, complete with highs and lows, otherwise recorded as a tragedy.
Now I'm on to a bit more fiction, balanced with leadership nonfiction for my grad class. If anyone has any suggestions for good reads, please do send them my way.
As an English major who teaches high school math and preaches as a lay speaker in a United Methodist Church, I have a lot of words that are pushing to the front, asking to be heard.
Monday, September 1, 2014
Tuesday, April 22, 2014
Poetry Slam, 2014 Edition
According to tradition, I gladly read 3 poems tonight at the JHS annual Poetry Slam. Here is this year's set:
Know Your Eights
Calculate
Annotate
Approximate
Commiserate
Communicate
Create
Cultivate
Dilate
Eliminate
Equate
Estimate
Evaluate
Exasperate
Extrapolate
Fabricate
Formulate
Guesstimate
Hallucinate
Hydrate
Illuminate
Intimidate
Overestimate
Postulate
Procrastinate
Retaliate
Separate
Tabulate
Tessellate
Tolerate
Translate
Truncate
Underestimate
Validate
Congratulate
Graduate
My Life, According to my Television Tray
A red pen
A Jimmy John’s receipt
A Kohl’s receipt
A Staple’s receipt
2 spins of yarn
1 incomplete crocheted bookmark
A Phillips-head screwdriver
A newspaper clipping
A TI-84 Plus Silver Edition Graphing Calculator
2 books – one fiction, one non
1 half-eaten box of fudge-covered graham crackers
Eclipse
It wasn’t until it was ending,
When the radiance finally slipped around the shadow,
That I realized just how dark it had been.
Friday, January 10, 2014
A Different Focus
As the first semester of this crazy year of remembering calculus and explaining it anew has sped by, I have had very little time to read...and when I have, I often end up falling asleep mid-paragraph. Even so, I have carved out some time to read a few books that have offered different perspectives for me and helped me develop a new focus. Just a few days ago, NPR also introduced me to a new comic book artist who speaks the honest truth with her interesting images. And aside from actually reading the words I'm absorbing, I've also spent lots of time with the great Sara B. and her latest album The Blessed Unrest, which is a wonderful word-based experience as well.
NPR's article on Yumi Sakugawa was my first brush with her work, and I was intrigued by her own descriptions of her comics. I was particularly drawn to the way she talked about friendships and how they form and develop and, subsequently, influence us in such impressive ways. The article gave excerpts of her story, but you can find the full text of "I Think I am in Friend-love with You" here. I so enjoy the process of developing a friendship, new or long-lasting, and I undoubtedly connect with the speaker in the story. On bad hair days, perhaps I also identify with the way the speaker looks in the images. Ok, maybe not, but seriously -- the unusual images Sakugawa uses gives a fanciful and albeit eerie tone to the story. Sakugawa's basic and heart-wrenchingly true wording and perfectly-accompanying drawings plays on that connection we feel when we realize someone else agrees with our opinions and the excitement of growing and learning with that person in new experiences. Just as we look forward to hanging out with those people we're in friend-love with, I'm looking forward to reading more of her work and seeing just how much she and I have in common as well.
Because so many days I don't have time to read at all, on my daily commute I have often found myself forgoing my normal habit of putting my iTunes on shuffle and instead playing Sara Barellies's The Blessed Unrest all the way through. I immediately connected with Sara's song "Brave" months ago even before the album came out; there are so many new components to my life that are causing me to show how big my brave is, and I often challenge my students to be brave -- to do something that is outside their comfort zone, to take control of something they're afraid to admit is within their power to change -- so I've been singing along at the top of my lungs many afternoons. Then when "Hercules" comes on, I turn up the radio even louder; nearly every line in this song rings true for me. I can be my own worst enemy, if I let my overactive imagination take a turn for the dark side, or I can keep moving. I'm at once empowered to think that "I'm on the hunt for who I've not yet become," while realizing that some days "I'd settle for a little equilibrium." I wonder who she's calling out to, who can make her a Hercules...by the end, all that matters is that she realizes she's the one who has to keep moving forward. While those two songs resonate the most with me, I also love the compassion in "Satellite Call," the optimism in "Little Black Dress," the realization that what felt like paradise might seem less so in hindsight in "Eden," the permission and freedom in changing, growing into a new chapter in life in "December," and the confidence to boldly say, "I Wanna Be Like Me." Sara has a new sound on this album, but she cuts right to the heart of the matter every time, as always.
Motivated to read it before seeing the movie, in December I took a short time -- very short, just three and a half pages kind of short -- and read James Thurber's "The Secret Life of Walter Mitty," which is found in full text all over the internet. I read the story as a freshmen in high school (and embarrassingly forgot the author's name the very next week in a Scholastic Bowl match) and wanted a recap before seeing the new movie version of it with my family over the Christmas holiday. While I remembered the premise of the story, I had clearly forgotten the details. If I had, I would've written a comparison essay in college on this and Virginia Woolf's Mrs. Dalloway, and I'm telling you, that paper would've rocked. I might still write that paper. Anyway, when my sister asked after the movie if it followed the story, I said, "Not at all!" with an awesome grin on my face. For the first time -- and quite possibly the last -- I was completely satisfied and rather thrilled with the completely different movie version. I think it's because it so obviously used the story as a springboard, as a muse, not as a possible script, so there was no possible way to compare the two. Plus, I really liked the film Walter and the way he created his own future far more than the story Walter.
Two-thirds of my prose reading list have been non-fiction and faith-based, so you have now been forewarned of the lack of plot diagram and a very different type of character development before you read on.
First, I read Bill Hybels's Too Busy Not to Pray. As I've mentioned here before, I'm rarely a fan of nonfiction, but saying my life has been crazy the last few months is the understatement of 2013, so I thought that this book I picked up at the 2013 Global Leadership Summit, organized and hosted by Bill Hybels himself, might be a good way for me reconnect, recenter, and refocus my life in way that I desperately needed. If you know me personally, you might know that my faith is of utmost importance to me, but that doesn't mean that I like the idea of blindly following the church. Following God, on the other hand, makes sense to me, and so I focused on what I felt God was pointing out to me in this book far more than reading with the intent of becoming Bill Hybel's latest disciple. I don't think that's what Bill intended when he wrote the book, either. I read it through the lens that, "Authentic Christianity is not learning a set of doctrines and then stepping in cadence with people all marching the same way...It is a walk -- a supernatural walk with the living, dynamic, communicating God" (p. 119). Knowing Bill wrote it with this in mind, and with a mental connection to walking my Camino de Santiago, I was able to pull out ideas that are helping me build a spiritual routine that I've already noticed is slowing down my mind and my heart, helping me reflect on my day and consider how I'm going to create the future with God. This habit is merely a journaling technique that Bill describes at length and similar to what I've been doing the last several years, but mine had become stale and habitual, and certainly not sincere communication with God. With just a few tweaks to the process -- and realizing the purpose of journaling was in fact the process and not the output -- I have found a connection I'd been denying that I'd lost over the last few months.
A handful of Hybels' ideas struck me as unique, too -- a new perspective on the widow and the judge in Luke 18, the challenge to focus on God the Mountain Mover instead of the mountains in my path, to mention a couple -- and some were ideas I'd heard from my pastor (who has clearly read Bill's work as well) -- like the possible answers we receive when we pray and the obstacles that might keep our prayers from fully connecting us to God. Even the reruns, though, were good for me to revisit and reconsider. If you're looking for a way to connect, I highly recommend this book.
Second, I took just around a week to read Bob Goff's Love Does. I simply couldn't put it down. I heard Bob speak at the 2013 Global Leadership Summit as well, and I could hear his energetic and excited voice while I read his words. My take-away from his GLS talk was, "Love God, love people, and do something," which is also a great way to summarize his book. Bob gives us many short stories about his own experiences of love -- not thinking about loving or talking about loving but the kind of love that does -- and how that's shaped his understanding of God and God's character. It seems like a cyclical process to me; the more Bob did things out of love, the better he knew God; the more he knew God, the more he wanted to do things out of love. Bob talks about living a life that is fully engaged and focuses on others, of "moving from developing opinions to developing options" (p. 82). Bob's life has developed into a series of stories so incredible I wondered momentarily if these are memories or allegories, all because he's devoted to living strategically while not letting plans stifle the creative ideas that he can implement with God. From my perspective as a math teacher who thought ten years ago that she'd be an English teacher in a much, much smaller town, I understand how God's ideas can be so far from our own that we can't imagine them until they're happening. If we over plan and make every effort to ensure our detailed agendas and itineraries come to pass, we run a great risk of missing the most rewarding experiences we could never imagine on our own. With that said, Bob talks at length about how God wants to create the future with us, one based on how God's made us. Living a life with God isn't about connecting the dots God's laid out for us ahead of time, and it's not about walking through a maze that God can see from above. Instead, it's about creating a new piece of art with God as we move forward into the future. Sometimes pieces of that artwork are "obscured from view, just around another bend in the road," (just like on the Camino) but that's okay because, "You don't need to know everything when you're with someone you trust" (p. 36, 136). He also talks about how, "God doesn't want failure to shut us down," (p. 29), which reminds me of the many lessons I've had in learning how to take risks, make mistakes, and learn from them. I was encouraged in his discussion of how our words can lift up others and shape their lives; it's with that mindset that I walk into my classroom every period, into every meeting, past every student and colleague in the hall. The descriptions of Christians who don't have a love-that-does and how they often turn others off when it comes to God was surprisingly encouraging; living an engaged life of love-that-does isn't just great for us, but it is also a chance for others to see God working through us.
Bob put his phone number in the back of the book and encourages people to call him and talk about love that does. He also has an email address on his website where you can send your stories about love that does. I'm going to contact Bob and let him know that he rocks and that I'm going to focus on having a love that does. I'll let you know where that story leads.
NPR's article on Yumi Sakugawa was my first brush with her work, and I was intrigued by her own descriptions of her comics. I was particularly drawn to the way she talked about friendships and how they form and develop and, subsequently, influence us in such impressive ways. The article gave excerpts of her story, but you can find the full text of "I Think I am in Friend-love with You" here. I so enjoy the process of developing a friendship, new or long-lasting, and I undoubtedly connect with the speaker in the story. On bad hair days, perhaps I also identify with the way the speaker looks in the images. Ok, maybe not, but seriously -- the unusual images Sakugawa uses gives a fanciful and albeit eerie tone to the story. Sakugawa's basic and heart-wrenchingly true wording and perfectly-accompanying drawings plays on that connection we feel when we realize someone else agrees with our opinions and the excitement of growing and learning with that person in new experiences. Just as we look forward to hanging out with those people we're in friend-love with, I'm looking forward to reading more of her work and seeing just how much she and I have in common as well.
Because so many days I don't have time to read at all, on my daily commute I have often found myself forgoing my normal habit of putting my iTunes on shuffle and instead playing Sara Barellies's The Blessed Unrest all the way through. I immediately connected with Sara's song "Brave" months ago even before the album came out; there are so many new components to my life that are causing me to show how big my brave is, and I often challenge my students to be brave -- to do something that is outside their comfort zone, to take control of something they're afraid to admit is within their power to change -- so I've been singing along at the top of my lungs many afternoons. Then when "Hercules" comes on, I turn up the radio even louder; nearly every line in this song rings true for me. I can be my own worst enemy, if I let my overactive imagination take a turn for the dark side, or I can keep moving. I'm at once empowered to think that "I'm on the hunt for who I've not yet become," while realizing that some days "I'd settle for a little equilibrium." I wonder who she's calling out to, who can make her a Hercules...by the end, all that matters is that she realizes she's the one who has to keep moving forward. While those two songs resonate the most with me, I also love the compassion in "Satellite Call," the optimism in "Little Black Dress," the realization that what felt like paradise might seem less so in hindsight in "Eden," the permission and freedom in changing, growing into a new chapter in life in "December," and the confidence to boldly say, "I Wanna Be Like Me." Sara has a new sound on this album, but she cuts right to the heart of the matter every time, as always.
Motivated to read it before seeing the movie, in December I took a short time -- very short, just three and a half pages kind of short -- and read James Thurber's "The Secret Life of Walter Mitty," which is found in full text all over the internet. I read the story as a freshmen in high school (and embarrassingly forgot the author's name the very next week in a Scholastic Bowl match) and wanted a recap before seeing the new movie version of it with my family over the Christmas holiday. While I remembered the premise of the story, I had clearly forgotten the details. If I had, I would've written a comparison essay in college on this and Virginia Woolf's Mrs. Dalloway, and I'm telling you, that paper would've rocked. I might still write that paper. Anyway, when my sister asked after the movie if it followed the story, I said, "Not at all!" with an awesome grin on my face. For the first time -- and quite possibly the last -- I was completely satisfied and rather thrilled with the completely different movie version. I think it's because it so obviously used the story as a springboard, as a muse, not as a possible script, so there was no possible way to compare the two. Plus, I really liked the film Walter and the way he created his own future far more than the story Walter.
Two-thirds of my prose reading list have been non-fiction and faith-based, so you have now been forewarned of the lack of plot diagram and a very different type of character development before you read on.
First, I read Bill Hybels's Too Busy Not to Pray. As I've mentioned here before, I'm rarely a fan of nonfiction, but saying my life has been crazy the last few months is the understatement of 2013, so I thought that this book I picked up at the 2013 Global Leadership Summit, organized and hosted by Bill Hybels himself, might be a good way for me reconnect, recenter, and refocus my life in way that I desperately needed. If you know me personally, you might know that my faith is of utmost importance to me, but that doesn't mean that I like the idea of blindly following the church. Following God, on the other hand, makes sense to me, and so I focused on what I felt God was pointing out to me in this book far more than reading with the intent of becoming Bill Hybel's latest disciple. I don't think that's what Bill intended when he wrote the book, either. I read it through the lens that, "Authentic Christianity is not learning a set of doctrines and then stepping in cadence with people all marching the same way...It is a walk -- a supernatural walk with the living, dynamic, communicating God" (p. 119). Knowing Bill wrote it with this in mind, and with a mental connection to walking my Camino de Santiago, I was able to pull out ideas that are helping me build a spiritual routine that I've already noticed is slowing down my mind and my heart, helping me reflect on my day and consider how I'm going to create the future with God. This habit is merely a journaling technique that Bill describes at length and similar to what I've been doing the last several years, but mine had become stale and habitual, and certainly not sincere communication with God. With just a few tweaks to the process -- and realizing the purpose of journaling was in fact the process and not the output -- I have found a connection I'd been denying that I'd lost over the last few months.
A handful of Hybels' ideas struck me as unique, too -- a new perspective on the widow and the judge in Luke 18, the challenge to focus on God the Mountain Mover instead of the mountains in my path, to mention a couple -- and some were ideas I'd heard from my pastor (who has clearly read Bill's work as well) -- like the possible answers we receive when we pray and the obstacles that might keep our prayers from fully connecting us to God. Even the reruns, though, were good for me to revisit and reconsider. If you're looking for a way to connect, I highly recommend this book.
Second, I took just around a week to read Bob Goff's Love Does. I simply couldn't put it down. I heard Bob speak at the 2013 Global Leadership Summit as well, and I could hear his energetic and excited voice while I read his words. My take-away from his GLS talk was, "Love God, love people, and do something," which is also a great way to summarize his book. Bob gives us many short stories about his own experiences of love -- not thinking about loving or talking about loving but the kind of love that does -- and how that's shaped his understanding of God and God's character. It seems like a cyclical process to me; the more Bob did things out of love, the better he knew God; the more he knew God, the more he wanted to do things out of love. Bob talks about living a life that is fully engaged and focuses on others, of "moving from developing opinions to developing options" (p. 82). Bob's life has developed into a series of stories so incredible I wondered momentarily if these are memories or allegories, all because he's devoted to living strategically while not letting plans stifle the creative ideas that he can implement with God. From my perspective as a math teacher who thought ten years ago that she'd be an English teacher in a much, much smaller town, I understand how God's ideas can be so far from our own that we can't imagine them until they're happening. If we over plan and make every effort to ensure our detailed agendas and itineraries come to pass, we run a great risk of missing the most rewarding experiences we could never imagine on our own. With that said, Bob talks at length about how God wants to create the future with us, one based on how God's made us. Living a life with God isn't about connecting the dots God's laid out for us ahead of time, and it's not about walking through a maze that God can see from above. Instead, it's about creating a new piece of art with God as we move forward into the future. Sometimes pieces of that artwork are "obscured from view, just around another bend in the road," (just like on the Camino) but that's okay because, "You don't need to know everything when you're with someone you trust" (p. 36, 136). He also talks about how, "God doesn't want failure to shut us down," (p. 29), which reminds me of the many lessons I've had in learning how to take risks, make mistakes, and learn from them. I was encouraged in his discussion of how our words can lift up others and shape their lives; it's with that mindset that I walk into my classroom every period, into every meeting, past every student and colleague in the hall. The descriptions of Christians who don't have a love-that-does and how they often turn others off when it comes to God was surprisingly encouraging; living an engaged life of love-that-does isn't just great for us, but it is also a chance for others to see God working through us.
Bob put his phone number in the back of the book and encourages people to call him and talk about love that does. He also has an email address on his website where you can send your stories about love that does. I'm going to contact Bob and let him know that he rocks and that I'm going to focus on having a love that does. I'll let you know where that story leads.
Saturday, July 27, 2013
The Greatest Miracle in the World
After a rejuvenating spiritual retreat weekend, a dear friend and mentor recommended that I read The Greatest Miracle in the World by Og Mandino. Recommended isn't quite right -- she gave me and the others who joined us on the weekend our own copies of the book, so certain is she of its potential impact. This book is vastly different than what I usually read and talk about here. It simply doesn't fit into the same category as the other literature, fiction or nonfiction, that I usually read. I don't, however, want to give away the plot of the book or any of the insights, as they carry the most weight within the story itself, but I'm desperate to share all the quotes I loved and connected with. So, to have my cake and eat it, too, I need you to go out and read it before reading any more of this post. Go on -- it's only 108 pages, and I'm sure you can find it in any bookstore or online as an ebook. You can probably even download it from your library and read it on whatever you're reading this. So go on -- read it, and then come back, and we can compare notes.
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See, wasn't it amazing?! Aren't you glad you read it before I spoiled all the surprises and told you my insights before you could develop your own? Yeah, I thought you would be. Just as the book is vastly different than what I usually read, so this blog will also be vastly different than what I usually write. Here goes.
Overall, I love the general premise that we are the greatest miracles on earth, each and every one of us. That we are each "the most valuable treasure on the face of the earth," that we are each "the rarest thing in the world" because we are so very unique, and just as importantly, because our Creator is a master at His trade (p. 97). I have no doubt that Mandino is right, that our colossal lack of self-esteem, stemming from a thousand different influences, makes us forget that we are this grand miracle. It blows my mind to think that we, that I am already God's greatest creation, even in my not-so-grand state, and even in the lesser state I am bound to be in some day through this pilgrimage (p. 96).
Since Mandino claimed earlier in the story that the greatest miracle is the resurrection of those who are essentially the living dead -- those whose lives have hit rock bottom and who have lost hope of it ever getting any better -- I was at first surprised that he seemed to change his claim in the God Memorandum. In the end, though, it's all the same miracle, just an ongoing one. That's an insight I keep coming across, over and over again every couple of years, that this miracle of a life full of peace that surpasses all understanding (Phil. 4:7) and joy that is complete (John 15:11) is ongoing, ever changing, a constant ebb and flow. I first discovered this thought while I walked the Pilgrimage of St. James many years ago, that although one day I had learned how to trust God for the physical and emotional strength to continue, I had to keep working on that trust every day. It wasn't like I had downloaded an updated version of my software and all of my doubts and fears were replaced with an impeccable will to trust and walk on; I have to activate that trust daily, hourly. It is my hope that after each valley through which I pass, I travel higher than the peak before, closer and closer to the One who travels with me.
The way that Simon describes the need for Og to read the God Memorandum nightly for 100 nights felt like a gentle shove in the right direction. I have no doubt that we "can actually become whatever [we] are thinking," and that "[w]e can do it for ourselves or others will do it for us" (p. 25). I know that whatever I spend my time doing becomes a part of who I am, that it "affects [my] actions and [my] life," and this reinforced it (p. 46). I hope the look I feel Simon giving Og in this passage comes rushing back to me each time I don't feel like doing something that I know will bring me closer to God -- reading, praying, writing, singing (even out of tune). Simon says it well: "Remember that the most difficult tasks are
consummated, not by a single explosive burst of energy or effort, but by
constant daily application of the best you have within you" (p. 85).
Those of you who know me might not be surprised that I have often struggled with the thoughts of simply becoming a drone for God -- blindly following rules and expectations because someone claimed God said it was to be so -- something that did not sound appealing to this woman, strong-willed, aware of what she knows and wants and unwilling to merely ask, "How high?" when told to jump. Recently, though, I heard a wise man say that God does not want us to simply act out a major play that He's written, but that instead God wants to create the future with us. Phrases in the book solidified this for me -- that God has intentionally given us the "power to choose" and "complete control over [our] own destiny" -- we are "not a slave of forces that [we] cannot comprehend" (p. 102, 101). Instead, God wants to rebuild the world with us, not in spite of us. I'm glad to hear the same message from two unrelated sources; this reassures me that my power of thought is a gift from God, not part of my nature that I have to lay down in order to pick up the cross and follow Him.
And just as I've relatively recently begun working through that lesson with God, there was likewise a lesson that I've struggled with since my elementary years. Simon calls it "our fear to take chances, to venture into unfamiliar enterprises and
territories, and how even those few who risked their future in order to
advance still found it necessary to constantly fight that compelling
urge to flee back..." (p. 51). I can vividly remember my godmother, who was also my teacher in elementary school, talking about how so many of us would too often rather do nothing than risk making a mistake, and how that was simply not the way to go about life. There have been times when I've pointed out in my mind my own student who is missing out on so much by avoiding the chance for failure, and not long after shaking my head, I find myself hanging back as well, playing it safe to keep my reputation high, even if that means avoiding improvement or some phenomenal discovery. I feel I need to connect this thought with the one above about an ongoing pilgrimage -- why would it need to be ongoing if someone was expecting us to be perfect from here on out? It's easier said than done, but one more reminder is bound to help increase my understanding and application of this learning target.
Many thoughts Mandino addresses apply directly to my work in the classroom. I constantly keep these in mind as I work with students, and it encouraged me to hold on to this mindset as we begin a new school year in a matter of weeks. For instance, I love that Simon wanted to tell people about God through a memo, meeting his audience where they are and in terms they understand -- God does it with us, so why shouldn't we do it with others? (p. 45) Also, I always approach a new task with the mindset to "render more and better service than is expected of [me], no matter what [my] task may be" (p. 99). Most importantly, I always remember that the students with whom I work still want to "reach [their] full potential" regardless of the facade they may display, but it is up to me to convince them that I still care and that their improvement and success is of utmost importance to me (p. 61, 43). After all, "why not try to change the world?" -- because all of these ideas will undoubtedly change the world (p. 66).
The idea that knocked me flat, though, that left me speechless (which, as you may guess, is a rare occasion) was one that I have heard a million times but had never heard put quite this way: "to receive love it must be given with no thought of its return...[that to] love for fulfillment, satisfaction, or pride is no love" (p. 94). While my head is nodding away and murmuring that of course I know this is true, my heart is standing wide-eyed, jaw dropped, stammering incomplete questions about how to truly approach love that way. I'm still working on that one.
And finally, I think the four "laws" from the God Memo are thoughts I need to read as often as possible, to help them seep into my mindset and out through my actions.
"Count your blessings.
Proclaim your rarity.
Go another mile.
Use wisely your power of choice."
(p. 104)
Sharing a Watermelon with Grandpa
I've been thinking a lot about my Grandpa lately -- his birthday isn't around the corner, Father's Day last month didn't trigger it...but summer was Grandpa's time.
Memories flooded my entire apartment today as I cut up a watermelon -- memories of sitting on a 90s style lawn chair or, just as often, a 5 gallon bucket in my grandparents' back yard on Sunday afternoon, completely entranced by Grandpa cutting up the huge watermelon he'd picked from his own garden and chilled in his old ice box in the garage the day before we all arrived. We were all there with him, aunts, uncles, cousins, my own immediate family and Grandma, eventually, but not immediately. Sometimes I'd join him in the yard before all the others came out of the house. He'd "plunk" the watermelon with his large, knobby, arthritic knuckles, look at me from under his greasy ball cap and grin. He taught us all that the watermelon had to sound hollow when you plunk it; the more hollow it sounds, the more ripe it would be. And sure enough -- each time he cut a small triangle plug out of the melon to double check its ripeness, he would pull out a deep red flesh, sweet and juicy. Being the first in the yard meant that I got to eat the plug, and I was assigned to hold the other side of the wide cross section while he cut it into smaller pieces, more manageable for the little ones and those who cared about keeping the sticky juice off their cheeks. That rarely mattered to me, and it didn't matter this morning as I nibbled on my own melon while carving it up. We would pass around Grandma's salt shaker, assuring her that we weren't clogging the holes with watermelon juice. I was older than I'd care to admit before I found out many people eat melon without salt. Together the family would transform from a loud, buzzing swarm to a quietly munching group -- until the one feeling orneriest that day would start spitting the seeds, aimed specifically at someone's forehead. I don't remember Grandpa ever teaching us how to perfect our aim, but I certainly don't remember him stopping us either. Grandma, on the other hand, would get into quite a tizzy over our little watermelon seed wars.
I've been thinking of both of them off and on lately, each evening when I take my ice tea glass to the kitchen and hear him saying, "Yes, I put my cup on top the ice box -- I can just use it tomorrow, it just had tea in it, and it will again tomorrow..." and Grandma's immediate and flabbergasted response that it would be washed tonight, just as it always was. But standing there this morning, juice dripping from my wrists, my elbows, my chin, thinking the watermelon will be even better once it's chilled but unable to stop eating it, I think Grandpa was standing there with me, grinning from ear to ear.
Memories flooded my entire apartment today as I cut up a watermelon -- memories of sitting on a 90s style lawn chair or, just as often, a 5 gallon bucket in my grandparents' back yard on Sunday afternoon, completely entranced by Grandpa cutting up the huge watermelon he'd picked from his own garden and chilled in his old ice box in the garage the day before we all arrived. We were all there with him, aunts, uncles, cousins, my own immediate family and Grandma, eventually, but not immediately. Sometimes I'd join him in the yard before all the others came out of the house. He'd "plunk" the watermelon with his large, knobby, arthritic knuckles, look at me from under his greasy ball cap and grin. He taught us all that the watermelon had to sound hollow when you plunk it; the more hollow it sounds, the more ripe it would be. And sure enough -- each time he cut a small triangle plug out of the melon to double check its ripeness, he would pull out a deep red flesh, sweet and juicy. Being the first in the yard meant that I got to eat the plug, and I was assigned to hold the other side of the wide cross section while he cut it into smaller pieces, more manageable for the little ones and those who cared about keeping the sticky juice off their cheeks. That rarely mattered to me, and it didn't matter this morning as I nibbled on my own melon while carving it up. We would pass around Grandma's salt shaker, assuring her that we weren't clogging the holes with watermelon juice. I was older than I'd care to admit before I found out many people eat melon without salt. Together the family would transform from a loud, buzzing swarm to a quietly munching group -- until the one feeling orneriest that day would start spitting the seeds, aimed specifically at someone's forehead. I don't remember Grandpa ever teaching us how to perfect our aim, but I certainly don't remember him stopping us either. Grandma, on the other hand, would get into quite a tizzy over our little watermelon seed wars.
I've been thinking of both of them off and on lately, each evening when I take my ice tea glass to the kitchen and hear him saying, "Yes, I put my cup on top the ice box -- I can just use it tomorrow, it just had tea in it, and it will again tomorrow..." and Grandma's immediate and flabbergasted response that it would be washed tonight, just as it always was. But standing there this morning, juice dripping from my wrists, my elbows, my chin, thinking the watermelon will be even better once it's chilled but unable to stop eating it, I think Grandpa was standing there with me, grinning from ear to ear.
Friday, July 19, 2013
A Different Perspective
I just finished Chris Cleave's Incendiary, which I originally picked up because I was so impressed with his Little Bee. I doubt I otherwise would have so willingly read a book about a woman coping with the loss of her husband and son in a fictional terrorist attack in London had I not held so much faith in Cleave's ability to teach me something new in a way that no one else can, and teach me he did. The entire novel is told from the unnamed narrator's very personal perspective, formatted as a letter begging the terrorists to stop. She tells us exactly how she feels, what she thinks, leaving no detail unmentioned. Cleave writes in stream of consciousness reminiscent of V. Woolf's Mrs. Dalloway. She tells us just how grief can paralyze a person, and just how that same person can find the strength to continue on in a world unlike anything she could have ever predicted.
Just like with Little Bee, saying much of anything about the plot of Incendiary would be giving too much away, but I do want to share one of my favorite pieces: "...but you never can squeeze every last bit of pride out of a human being. It's like a tube of toothpaste. You can twist it and you can crush it but there's always a tiny bit left isn't there?" (p. 229).
And I'll end on a final thought, one of the very, very few positive and decent thoughts that Petra, one of our narrator's acquaintances, has to offer: "So be brave" (p. 165).
Just like with Little Bee, saying much of anything about the plot of Incendiary would be giving too much away, but I do want to share one of my favorite pieces: "...but you never can squeeze every last bit of pride out of a human being. It's like a tube of toothpaste. You can twist it and you can crush it but there's always a tiny bit left isn't there?" (p. 229).
And I'll end on a final thought, one of the very, very few positive and decent thoughts that Petra, one of our narrator's acquaintances, has to offer: "So be brave" (p. 165).
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Speaking of being brave, I highly recommend checking out Sara Barellies's new album The Blessed Unrest, on which is her newest single "Brave." The video for it is here. As always, Miss Sara B. has somehow written songs that say what I was thinking three days ago, two weeks ago, the last year, and want to think for the next twenty. I'm considering making one of her lyrics my motto for the upcoming school year as I tackle the grand task of teaching our school's first year of AP Calc, which requires a whole different set of words that I haven't used in about a decade.
"Show me how big your brave is." :)
Thursday, June 6, 2013
Carrying On
Last night I finished Tim O'Brien's The Things They Carried, and it blew me away. As an early Millennial, I feel I was exposed to a pretty traditional United States History Course in high school -- beginning with George Washington and Paul Revere in August, and ending with a rushed discussion of the aftermath of World War II in May. Thus, I've never formally studied the Vietnam War, but I had read parts of O'Brien's work in college before picking up the book. His words bring to life experiences I'll never really understand, and his vivid imagery made me feel as if I were sleeping in the "shit field" right along with him and the other soldiers. It was eye-opening for me, and I'm glad I learned about the conflict through his perspective and not that of a cold, soulless textbook. This has more meaning, more truth.
O'Brien discusses several times the fluidity of truth when it comes to war stories, about how some are fiction and some aren't, but the best ones are those that have an impact on the listener, the ones that serve a purpose. Don't we often tell our stories this way, or at least in hopes that what we provide, truth or not, has the desired impact?
Although I was impacted by O'Brien's work, I am afraid I am still too much like his nine year old daughter when he took her to Vietnam -- too far removed from the situation, from the stories, to really understand their magnitude. I only know a small handful of men who served there, and I'm not close to any of them. I know, intellectually, that the War had a huge impact on our culture as a whole and on individual men and their loved ones across the country...but I don't personally know that impact. Being inside O'Brien's mind and emotions through his work is perhaps my only way to approach that level of understanding. Approach, but never truly grasp. I am also well aware that this issue is linked directly to events and people right now in our culture, and I hope that reading The Things They Carried can help me better understand the people who face our generation's version of the story every day.
O'Brien discusses several times the fluidity of truth when it comes to war stories, about how some are fiction and some aren't, but the best ones are those that have an impact on the listener, the ones that serve a purpose. Don't we often tell our stories this way, or at least in hopes that what we provide, truth or not, has the desired impact?
Although I was impacted by O'Brien's work, I am afraid I am still too much like his nine year old daughter when he took her to Vietnam -- too far removed from the situation, from the stories, to really understand their magnitude. I only know a small handful of men who served there, and I'm not close to any of them. I know, intellectually, that the War had a huge impact on our culture as a whole and on individual men and their loved ones across the country...but I don't personally know that impact. Being inside O'Brien's mind and emotions through his work is perhaps my only way to approach that level of understanding. Approach, but never truly grasp. I am also well aware that this issue is linked directly to events and people right now in our culture, and I hope that reading The Things They Carried can help me better understand the people who face our generation's version of the story every day.
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As my summer vacation begins and I dive into my mathematical lesson plans (calculus is a whole new way of thinking and teaching, in case you were wondering), I am also looking ahead at my fiction reading list. I am slowly but surely filling my small home with more and more books, and I'm hoping to chip away at the "Haven't read yet" stacks. Even so, I am always looking for more ideas as well, and these lists have recently helped me A) feel good about many books I've read over the years and B) find more titles to fill my shelves.
http://www.buzzfeed.com/doree/books-you-need-to-read-in-your-20s
http://blog.ted.com/2013/05/31/your-mega-summer-reading-list-180-books-recommended-by-tedsters/
http://www.nytimes.com/2013/06/02/books/review/what-i-read-that-summer.html?pagewanted=1&_r=2&
If you've read any of these listed and recommend them, please let me know! Likewise, if you're interested in which ones I recommend from these lists, I'd be happy to share.
(I especially liked reading the first entry in the NY Times article, where I learned that my hero Louise also read Katherine Anne Porter's Ship of Fools, which is one of my all-time favorite books and yet one that most people have never heard of. It just makes me smile.)
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Lastly, polymath is now one of my most favorite words, and it gives me a goal to which I aspire to achieve. What will it take for me to be considered a full-fledged polymath?
Sunday, April 14, 2013
Thankfully, a Very Different Time and Place
Over the last week, I read Margaret Atwood's The Handmaid's Tale; I couldn't put it down. My only concern in my hard-to-find moments of free time was whether or not Offred would ever make it out of this terrifying dystopian society, ever find her family and friends from the time before -- before she was reduced to a "womb with legs." Essentially, in the novel North American society has been overtaken by a group who believe only certain people are worthy of the rights and privileges we have today, and those who do not fit into that group are merely used for their services to the so-called greater good, while in reality they're required to serve the same group who decided who qualifies as worthy. In the case of the Handmaids, their only viable service is to use their bodies to propagate.
There's not a lot I can say about the plot without giving too much away, but I can say this -- what a motivation to promote valuing all lives, all people despite differences of opinion. Doesn't it boil down to that? In its simplest form, this is a story of a powerful group refusing to accept, refusing even to tolerate other human beings, reducing them to objects in order to justify using and discarding them. I'm not claiming we should not be passionate about our beliefs, values, morals; I'm insisting that shoving them down others' throats will never convince others to change their minds. Mandating beliefs is an oxymoron.
Addition:
The more I think on the whole novel, the more I think of a passage I want to point out.
Offred said: "But remember that forgiveness too is power. To beg for it is power, and to withhold it or bestow it is a power, perhaps the greatest" (p. 135).
I'm still pondering on just how much and what that means to me; right now it's still brewing in my mind, and I know it's strong. I just don't have words yet for how true that is for me.
There's not a lot I can say about the plot without giving too much away, but I can say this -- what a motivation to promote valuing all lives, all people despite differences of opinion. Doesn't it boil down to that? In its simplest form, this is a story of a powerful group refusing to accept, refusing even to tolerate other human beings, reducing them to objects in order to justify using and discarding them. I'm not claiming we should not be passionate about our beliefs, values, morals; I'm insisting that shoving them down others' throats will never convince others to change their minds. Mandating beliefs is an oxymoron.
Addition:
The more I think on the whole novel, the more I think of a passage I want to point out.
Offred said: "But remember that forgiveness too is power. To beg for it is power, and to withhold it or bestow it is a power, perhaps the greatest" (p. 135).
I'm still pondering on just how much and what that means to me; right now it's still brewing in my mind, and I know it's strong. I just don't have words yet for how true that is for me.
Sunday, April 7, 2013
Surprise Endings
After months of listening to Louise Edrich's The Plague of Doves while working on crocheting projects and reading Jane Eyre by Charlotte Bronte on again and off again, I have to admit both endings surprised me. I tackled both stories rather haphazardly, picking them up and putting them down for something else -- either due to convenience, with the former on audio book, or sheer difficulty moving onward, with the latter. I don't think this approach fostered my prediction skills, but who knows.
Let's start with The Plague of Doves, which I thoroughly enjoyed. As I mentioned in my post about The Round House, Erdrich starts the stories of these characters in Plague, and I have high hopes that these two books aren't the only ones about this particular family. Plague gave many, many smaller stories, and listening to it over several months did make it difficult to piece them all together and see how they were connected. (To my mathematical readers: sometimes it felt like a piecewise function made up of the most random components -- an absolute value grafted onto a cubic curve, grafted yet again onto a logarithmic, all with perfect continuity, and somehow still gracefully approaching infinity in the end. Can you tell I've been working with calculus this spring break?) Sometimes I wasn't sure why we needed to know about a certain person's specific experience, but as always, Louise brought it all together perfectly in the end, showing how each tiny detail played a role in discovering the true murderer from decades past. The interconnectedness of the characters, despite their inability to see it, fascinates me, and it makes me think about how such interconnectedness isn't a fictional characteristic of communities. It's like finding out that someone you've worked with for years knows someone you went to high school with (thank you, Facebook, for indicating mutual friends), except that's happening on a grander scale, and we are as oblivious to it as Erdrich's characters. Side note: I also found it interesting that just after I listened to a character's obsession with Anais Nin, she was described on The Writer's Almanac (where she was quoted as saying, "I write emotional algebra," which I think is cool), and she was mentioned on Bunheads (a tv show -- don't judge). While Nin seems a bit too intense for me to continue to follow, I just liked how so many small areas of my life intertwined for a moment.
And then there is Jane Eyre. And here is where I might make some of my English major friends very unhappy. I really just didn't enjoy it. (*scramble under the desk to avoid being hit with projectile paperweights of a reader or two*) Personally, I've never coped well with romantic novels' explanations of the drawing room's curtains and the like. (Yes, it's true, I didn't like Austen all that much.) I also know that I read such literature through a 2013 feminist's lens, and that's simply not fair. It doesn't change the fact that I do; I just know it affects my perception of the story. I also know that some of my most feminist-driven friends love this book, which means it really is just my personal lens that makes it difficult for me. I didn't connect with Jane, and I was more than perturbed with Rochester for not being up front with her about Bertha before they were in the church. Seriously? I had a hard time letting go of that incident. I'm sure I would have enjoyed analyzing it for reflections of social norms (gender roles, perception of mental illness and poverty, all sorts of things) in a class in undergrad, but I don't think I would've enjoyed reading it to get to that discussion even then. I even watched the movie from 1996 in hopes that seeing it would foster my connection with Jane and Rochester, make me want them to be together forever. It didn't work. Jane -- both Eyre and Austen -- just aren't my cup of tea. (Pun intended.)
With all of that said, I'm left with the great knowledge that it doesn't really matter that I have a huge literary crush on Erdrich and would rather leave Jane Eyre and the like for anyone else but me, even though it seems many, many people I know have the exact opposite opinions. (No one I've recommended Erdrich to has enjoyed her the way I do. No one. I even just found out that the professor who introduced me to Erdrich doesn't like her that much. Talk about a downer.) What matters is that I know what I like, and I try other pieces every now and again, and other people know what they like, and they try other pieces every now and again, too. So, take my opinions or leave them; I'm off to read another book from during or after the Modernist movement.
Let's start with The Plague of Doves, which I thoroughly enjoyed. As I mentioned in my post about The Round House, Erdrich starts the stories of these characters in Plague, and I have high hopes that these two books aren't the only ones about this particular family. Plague gave many, many smaller stories, and listening to it over several months did make it difficult to piece them all together and see how they were connected. (To my mathematical readers: sometimes it felt like a piecewise function made up of the most random components -- an absolute value grafted onto a cubic curve, grafted yet again onto a logarithmic, all with perfect continuity, and somehow still gracefully approaching infinity in the end. Can you tell I've been working with calculus this spring break?) Sometimes I wasn't sure why we needed to know about a certain person's specific experience, but as always, Louise brought it all together perfectly in the end, showing how each tiny detail played a role in discovering the true murderer from decades past. The interconnectedness of the characters, despite their inability to see it, fascinates me, and it makes me think about how such interconnectedness isn't a fictional characteristic of communities. It's like finding out that someone you've worked with for years knows someone you went to high school with (thank you, Facebook, for indicating mutual friends), except that's happening on a grander scale, and we are as oblivious to it as Erdrich's characters. Side note: I also found it interesting that just after I listened to a character's obsession with Anais Nin, she was described on The Writer's Almanac (where she was quoted as saying, "I write emotional algebra," which I think is cool), and she was mentioned on Bunheads (a tv show -- don't judge). While Nin seems a bit too intense for me to continue to follow, I just liked how so many small areas of my life intertwined for a moment.
And then there is Jane Eyre. And here is where I might make some of my English major friends very unhappy. I really just didn't enjoy it. (*scramble under the desk to avoid being hit with projectile paperweights of a reader or two*) Personally, I've never coped well with romantic novels' explanations of the drawing room's curtains and the like. (Yes, it's true, I didn't like Austen all that much.) I also know that I read such literature through a 2013 feminist's lens, and that's simply not fair. It doesn't change the fact that I do; I just know it affects my perception of the story. I also know that some of my most feminist-driven friends love this book, which means it really is just my personal lens that makes it difficult for me. I didn't connect with Jane, and I was more than perturbed with Rochester for not being up front with her about Bertha before they were in the church. Seriously? I had a hard time letting go of that incident. I'm sure I would have enjoyed analyzing it for reflections of social norms (gender roles, perception of mental illness and poverty, all sorts of things) in a class in undergrad, but I don't think I would've enjoyed reading it to get to that discussion even then. I even watched the movie from 1996 in hopes that seeing it would foster my connection with Jane and Rochester, make me want them to be together forever. It didn't work. Jane -- both Eyre and Austen -- just aren't my cup of tea. (Pun intended.)
With all of that said, I'm left with the great knowledge that it doesn't really matter that I have a huge literary crush on Erdrich and would rather leave Jane Eyre and the like for anyone else but me, even though it seems many, many people I know have the exact opposite opinions. (No one I've recommended Erdrich to has enjoyed her the way I do. No one. I even just found out that the professor who introduced me to Erdrich doesn't like her that much. Talk about a downer.) What matters is that I know what I like, and I try other pieces every now and again, and other people know what they like, and they try other pieces every now and again, too. So, take my opinions or leave them; I'm off to read another book from during or after the Modernist movement.
Sunday, February 10, 2013
To another world...
In a mere week, I completed Louise Erdrich's The Round House, and now I find myself missing some of the characters. Wondering what happens next. How Joe fares after the final trauma of the novel. The moment I began reading the book, I fell into the world that Erdrich created, this time recognizing characters from The Plague of Doves and even a few names here and there from her earlier novels. That's how she always hooks me -- she plays on my desire to see how everyone ends up after the last page of the last book I read, how everyone becomes even more intertwined than before. Perhaps it's my small town heritage that feeds this desire; perhaps I just like maintaining the friendships she fosters. Regardless of why, I have a desperate hope that Louise someday tells us more about Joe and Margaret. About Geraldine and Bazil.
The novel is undoubtedly Joe's coming of age story, a story of how a summer that really wasn't about him at all became the most defining months of his life. It is about his mother and, more importantly, his family as a whole. The string of violence and trauma that Joe's family endures is horrendous, but his family shows how strong we can be in the face of such atrocities. How we can make some sense of complete and utter nonsense, and cope with the lingering nonsense that is never resolved. How we justify our actions, yearn for justice, for peace. How we want back what we knew before, and how we cope with knowing that nothing will ever be that way again. Coping, even transforming through coping -- both are vital threads of the story.
Between the award Erdrich has received for the book and its themes of gender, native, and justice issues, I foresee professors including this book in their syllabi soon. I hope this happens, at least -- it has the potential to open serious discussions about rape, tribal and non-tribal politics, justice, morals, religion, and the basic process of uncovering one's identity. I could only imagine the classroom discussions we could have when Joe and Cappy find themselves asking one another, "What are we?...What are we now?" Comparing their struggling, shaky sense of identity to Linda's strong understanding of who she is, despite her convoluted history. This is why I hope someday Louise writes more about Joe's life -- to find out just what he becomes, who he becomes, what good he does in the world. Whether or not Father Travis was right, that God does "draw good from any evil situation," even the evil that seemed to compound in Joe's life up until the final pages of the book.
If you love Erdrich and the world she has created, you'll love The Round House, too. If you don't know her yet, this would be an excellent way to get to know her, and then I highly recommend reading more of her works to see how all of these people are connected.
The novel is undoubtedly Joe's coming of age story, a story of how a summer that really wasn't about him at all became the most defining months of his life. It is about his mother and, more importantly, his family as a whole. The string of violence and trauma that Joe's family endures is horrendous, but his family shows how strong we can be in the face of such atrocities. How we can make some sense of complete and utter nonsense, and cope with the lingering nonsense that is never resolved. How we justify our actions, yearn for justice, for peace. How we want back what we knew before, and how we cope with knowing that nothing will ever be that way again. Coping, even transforming through coping -- both are vital threads of the story.
Between the award Erdrich has received for the book and its themes of gender, native, and justice issues, I foresee professors including this book in their syllabi soon. I hope this happens, at least -- it has the potential to open serious discussions about rape, tribal and non-tribal politics, justice, morals, religion, and the basic process of uncovering one's identity. I could only imagine the classroom discussions we could have when Joe and Cappy find themselves asking one another, "What are we?...What are we now?" Comparing their struggling, shaky sense of identity to Linda's strong understanding of who she is, despite her convoluted history. This is why I hope someday Louise writes more about Joe's life -- to find out just what he becomes, who he becomes, what good he does in the world. Whether or not Father Travis was right, that God does "draw good from any evil situation," even the evil that seemed to compound in Joe's life up until the final pages of the book.
If you love Erdrich and the world she has created, you'll love The Round House, too. If you don't know her yet, this would be an excellent way to get to know her, and then I highly recommend reading more of her works to see how all of these people are connected.
Sunday, December 30, 2012
A Semester's Worth of Reading
This semester has been a busy one, so there's been very little reading for fun going on around here. For my class, I read pieces of (insert shudder here -- wouldn't a professor know the importance of reading an entire piece, in the right order no less, to know the full context?) of Malcolm Gladwell's The Tipping Point as well as Millennials Rising: The Next Generation by Howe and Strauss. The former was interesting but difficult at times to apply to an educational setting; the latter was published in 2001, before we could even imagine how the colossal influences of September 11 and Facebook would impact our students and the way they learn. Alas, these texts did little to further my understanding of how to best foster learning in my classroom. Thankfully, I was also responsible for reading and implementing ideas on formative assessment, which was helpful and stands to create great change in education if handled well.
With that aside, I did read a bit during what little time I had leftover. First I started with the amazing Half the Sky by Nicholas D. Kristof and Sheryl WuDunn, nonfiction authors who are a major part of the movement for educating women worldwide. I had heard my college friends and former professors talking about it, raving about it, telling how it moved them to action, for quite some time. Then I heard WuDunn speak at The Global Leadership Summit last August, at which she read excerpts of their book. As I sat in the audience, tears streaming down my face as she told us how a fundamental education had changed the lives of women they'd met, I knew I'd need to buy the book to know more about their mission. I'll admit I haven't finished the book yet (I can hear boos and hisses as I type), but I think that's merely because I'm not well trained or self-disciplined when it comes to reading non-fiction. I am sadly addicted to the plot diagram we learned about in middle school, and nonfiction simply doesn't work that way. I'm nearly finished, though, and it has moved me to action -- I've revisited the ways I can promote education in Liberia through much-needed scholarships for students and improving teacher education programs in the country. The authors discuss other ways to "[turn] oppression into opportunity for women worldwide" as well, but being an educator, that part stays with me and is more meaningful. As I read story after story of women whose education changed their lives, I was reminded why I do what I do -- no matter who the students are, where they are, or the social norms they must face, an education can help them create a better future for all of us.
Feeling a bit guilty that I hadn't yet finished Half the Sky, I felt it important that I maintain the theme a bit and moved to A Short History of Women by Kate Walbert. It comes highly acclaimed, and I enjoyed it enough to finish it, but I was sadly never lost in it. The premise is brilliant: the novel follows five generations of women in the Townsend family, beginning with an early feminist Dorothy in England and working through trials and tribulations until the Millennial Dora. The set-up is right up my alley: multiple narrators, a non-linear pacing to help us see how specific events influence later ones. When it came right down to it, though, I continued reading it simply because I thought somehow, eventually, I would truly connect with a character. It never happened. I think Walbert simply took the plight of women in a direction with which I could not align myself -- she did not include a single lasting joy for any of the five women. Having read many feminist pieces in college and after, I am well aware of the plight Walbert was focusing upon; even so, her laser-like focus on how none of these women found meaning, solace, or joy in anything was merely depressing. It's not like, for instance, Kate Chopin's The Awakening. Edna's story is devastating, but telling it has purpose. And when Edna makes her final decision, it made me what to go out and do something, something important, something that would make me feel complete, feel like an important cog in this big mess of a machine. It's ironic, really, that this book did not spark that kind of drive within me, since Dorothy Townsend Barrett, the third generation of the family, screamed, "DO SOMETHING," from every rooftop she could find. Perhaps the call meant so little to me because none of the women actually did anything, except for maybe the first Dorothy, more than merely talk about how they weren't doing what they truly wanted to do.
Without even realizing it, I then continued the theme of women's situations with Nancy Horan's Loving Frank, which I completed in a mere four days. Now, Mamah Borthwick (Cheney) -- now she is a character I connected with, one I felt was telling me her story as we sat together on my living room sofa. Mamah was the lover of Frank Lloyd Wright from around 1903 to 1914. I first bought the book after touring Wright's Dana Thomas House and thought I'd like to know more about the architect. Having the Dana Thomas house in mind, I was intrigued by Horan's take on Wright's motivation; I especially liked an early description of how he incorporated the horizon into his pieces -- I yearn to live in a place where I can see a section of horizon from my windows. I am also intrigued by his thoughts that, "what you put into [a] space will affect how you live in it and what you become" (p. 232). Although I do now understand Wright more than before reading the book, it really wasn't about him. It was about Mamah.
Mamah struggled with the expectations of women that Walbert addressed; Mamah found her place despite a society of norms that pushed her in another direction. She looked for a way to live out her own identity, to Memento vivere -- remember to live -- on her own terms, and she encouraged others to as well. She was far from popular in having this long-term affair with Frank, with those closest to her as well as the entire Midwest, but after years of searching substance and meaning, she was a better person, and popularity was far from important. The feminist movement -- painted by Horan as primarily for suffrage and equal pay here in the States but also about individual freedom in other countries as well -- was in the forefront of both Mamah's and Frank's minds and of the story. And story it is...it's a fictionalized account of their meeting, their relationship, their life together. Very little documentation on Mamah exists, but Horan did a wonderful job giving what she felt is Mamah's point of view from the few facts we have. I can't say much else, so as not to give anything away, but know that it is a brilliant work that make me wish I wasn't at the end.
With that aside, I did read a bit during what little time I had leftover. First I started with the amazing Half the Sky by Nicholas D. Kristof and Sheryl WuDunn, nonfiction authors who are a major part of the movement for educating women worldwide. I had heard my college friends and former professors talking about it, raving about it, telling how it moved them to action, for quite some time. Then I heard WuDunn speak at The Global Leadership Summit last August, at which she read excerpts of their book. As I sat in the audience, tears streaming down my face as she told us how a fundamental education had changed the lives of women they'd met, I knew I'd need to buy the book to know more about their mission. I'll admit I haven't finished the book yet (I can hear boos and hisses as I type), but I think that's merely because I'm not well trained or self-disciplined when it comes to reading non-fiction. I am sadly addicted to the plot diagram we learned about in middle school, and nonfiction simply doesn't work that way. I'm nearly finished, though, and it has moved me to action -- I've revisited the ways I can promote education in Liberia through much-needed scholarships for students and improving teacher education programs in the country. The authors discuss other ways to "[turn] oppression into opportunity for women worldwide" as well, but being an educator, that part stays with me and is more meaningful. As I read story after story of women whose education changed their lives, I was reminded why I do what I do -- no matter who the students are, where they are, or the social norms they must face, an education can help them create a better future for all of us.
Feeling a bit guilty that I hadn't yet finished Half the Sky, I felt it important that I maintain the theme a bit and moved to A Short History of Women by Kate Walbert. It comes highly acclaimed, and I enjoyed it enough to finish it, but I was sadly never lost in it. The premise is brilliant: the novel follows five generations of women in the Townsend family, beginning with an early feminist Dorothy in England and working through trials and tribulations until the Millennial Dora. The set-up is right up my alley: multiple narrators, a non-linear pacing to help us see how specific events influence later ones. When it came right down to it, though, I continued reading it simply because I thought somehow, eventually, I would truly connect with a character. It never happened. I think Walbert simply took the plight of women in a direction with which I could not align myself -- she did not include a single lasting joy for any of the five women. Having read many feminist pieces in college and after, I am well aware of the plight Walbert was focusing upon; even so, her laser-like focus on how none of these women found meaning, solace, or joy in anything was merely depressing. It's not like, for instance, Kate Chopin's The Awakening. Edna's story is devastating, but telling it has purpose. And when Edna makes her final decision, it made me what to go out and do something, something important, something that would make me feel complete, feel like an important cog in this big mess of a machine. It's ironic, really, that this book did not spark that kind of drive within me, since Dorothy Townsend Barrett, the third generation of the family, screamed, "DO SOMETHING," from every rooftop she could find. Perhaps the call meant so little to me because none of the women actually did anything, except for maybe the first Dorothy, more than merely talk about how they weren't doing what they truly wanted to do.
Without even realizing it, I then continued the theme of women's situations with Nancy Horan's Loving Frank, which I completed in a mere four days. Now, Mamah Borthwick (Cheney) -- now she is a character I connected with, one I felt was telling me her story as we sat together on my living room sofa. Mamah was the lover of Frank Lloyd Wright from around 1903 to 1914. I first bought the book after touring Wright's Dana Thomas House and thought I'd like to know more about the architect. Having the Dana Thomas house in mind, I was intrigued by Horan's take on Wright's motivation; I especially liked an early description of how he incorporated the horizon into his pieces -- I yearn to live in a place where I can see a section of horizon from my windows. I am also intrigued by his thoughts that, "what you put into [a] space will affect how you live in it and what you become" (p. 232). Although I do now understand Wright more than before reading the book, it really wasn't about him. It was about Mamah.
Mamah struggled with the expectations of women that Walbert addressed; Mamah found her place despite a society of norms that pushed her in another direction. She looked for a way to live out her own identity, to Memento vivere -- remember to live -- on her own terms, and she encouraged others to as well. She was far from popular in having this long-term affair with Frank, with those closest to her as well as the entire Midwest, but after years of searching substance and meaning, she was a better person, and popularity was far from important. The feminist movement -- painted by Horan as primarily for suffrage and equal pay here in the States but also about individual freedom in other countries as well -- was in the forefront of both Mamah's and Frank's minds and of the story. And story it is...it's a fictionalized account of their meeting, their relationship, their life together. Very little documentation on Mamah exists, but Horan did a wonderful job giving what she felt is Mamah's point of view from the few facts we have. I can't say much else, so as not to give anything away, but know that it is a brilliant work that make me wish I wasn't at the end.
Saturday, August 11, 2012
Gatsby and gods; Taylor and Turtle
I'll admit it -- I'm rather proud of myself for reading three books this summer among the travel, classes, and writing I've been up to.
I began Jane Eyre while in the airports on the China trip, but I just couldn't seem to read it while poolside once I returned home...far too many distractions, and it was simply too hot. One must get to know Jane, I think, when snow is blowing outside.
Gatsby, Nick, Daisy, and the rest, though -- I could read about them on the hottest of days. Their passions, shallow though many of them are, run as hot as passions can. I first read The Great Gatsby in my high school junior English class, and I remember standing in awe of it. After seeing previews of the new Gatsby movie coming out this December, I knew I needed to reread it to prepare myself. To remind myself. To see if I still fell into it the way I remembered I did so many years ago.
I did. I couldn't put it down.
As I told friends that I was rereading it, a handful threw their hands in the air, rolled their eyes, and exclaimed, "Ugh, I hated Gatsby!" I have no desire to hear about the problems of the rich." I kid you not, every one of them who insisted that Fitzgerald's work is atrocious sited the lack of relevancy in their lives based on financial differences. And yet, when I read it this time, I could see nothing but connections between these people and my generation. They wanted it all, and they thought all of it, together, collectively, would make their lives complete. Happy. Full. But the more they stacked up, the more they accumulated -- money, houses, furniture, clothes, cars, drinks, people -- the faster the significance of it all diminished. As a mathematician, I see it as inversely proportional: as one increases, the other decreases, and vice-verse. All of this could be plucked out of the 1920s and dropped anywhere in 2012, and it would fit in as snugly as if it had always been there. These are not only the distorted dreams of the Roaring Twenty's wealthy; they are the distorted dreams of so many people today, wealthy or not. Money is not a prerequisite of being materialistic or delusional. This theme hasn't left our culture in the last 90+ years -- it's still running rampant through tv, movies, books, and magazines, so it must still resonate with someone. Don't get me wrong; I don't like the Buchanans and their lot. I agree with Nick that they were "a rotten crowd," and I felt he summed them up well toward the end of the book:
"It was all very careless and confused. They were careless people, Tom and Daisy -- they smashed up things and creatures and then retreated back into their money or their vast carelessness or whatever it was that kept them together, and let other people clean up the mess they had made..."
If this doesn't remind you of people in our era, then I'm happy for you. But because we're clearly still seeing signs of this mindset in our society today, regardless of just how much money the people in question have, I maintain that Gatsby is still a relevant read.
Gatsby, I think, was a non-traditional materialist: he didn't think all the riches would bring him happiness, but he did think they'd bring him Daisy and, therefore, happiness. He was right on the money (bu dum ching!) when it came to Daisy's skewed priorities, but he didn't realize that those same priorities also skewed her love for him. He admitted at one point that "[h]er voice is full of money;" he simply didn't know it was so full that there was no longer space for him. Gatsby was certain he could "repeat the past," another theme that still fills our culture, by showing Daisy he was even more grand than when they first met. I think his obsession with the past is stronger than his actual love for Daisy; he's mixed up the two, or somehow identified them as the same. Fitzgerald makes it clear that we can't live as if time moving forward doesn't change the people and the world around us, and yet he ends the book by reminding us that we also can't live without the past affecting us.
"...tomorrow we will run faster, stretch our our arms farther...And one fine morning --
So we beat on, boats against the current, borne back ceaselessly into the past."
And finally: the green light, because that's quintessentially Gatsby for so many readers. For a while -- I don't know how long -- I had forgotten how blatant Fitzgerald was about the connection between the green light and Daisy. I only remembered that we discussed it in class, and I often wondered if that was one of the great symbols of literature pointed out in class discussions that I never actually identified in textual evidence myself...but to my pleasant surprise, Fitzgerald really spelled out the whole idea for us. Now I see why so many teachers use it to foster understanding of symbols and figurative language.
So if you haven't read it since high school, or heaven forbid you never read it at all, pick it up immediately. It's short, but it holds a massive impact. Then join me when the movie comes out in December.
I began Jane Eyre while in the airports on the China trip, but I just couldn't seem to read it while poolside once I returned home...far too many distractions, and it was simply too hot. One must get to know Jane, I think, when snow is blowing outside.
Gatsby, Nick, Daisy, and the rest, though -- I could read about them on the hottest of days. Their passions, shallow though many of them are, run as hot as passions can. I first read The Great Gatsby in my high school junior English class, and I remember standing in awe of it. After seeing previews of the new Gatsby movie coming out this December, I knew I needed to reread it to prepare myself. To remind myself. To see if I still fell into it the way I remembered I did so many years ago.
I did. I couldn't put it down.
As I told friends that I was rereading it, a handful threw their hands in the air, rolled their eyes, and exclaimed, "Ugh, I hated Gatsby!" I have no desire to hear about the problems of the rich." I kid you not, every one of them who insisted that Fitzgerald's work is atrocious sited the lack of relevancy in their lives based on financial differences. And yet, when I read it this time, I could see nothing but connections between these people and my generation. They wanted it all, and they thought all of it, together, collectively, would make their lives complete. Happy. Full. But the more they stacked up, the more they accumulated -- money, houses, furniture, clothes, cars, drinks, people -- the faster the significance of it all diminished. As a mathematician, I see it as inversely proportional: as one increases, the other decreases, and vice-verse. All of this could be plucked out of the 1920s and dropped anywhere in 2012, and it would fit in as snugly as if it had always been there. These are not only the distorted dreams of the Roaring Twenty's wealthy; they are the distorted dreams of so many people today, wealthy or not. Money is not a prerequisite of being materialistic or delusional. This theme hasn't left our culture in the last 90+ years -- it's still running rampant through tv, movies, books, and magazines, so it must still resonate with someone. Don't get me wrong; I don't like the Buchanans and their lot. I agree with Nick that they were "a rotten crowd," and I felt he summed them up well toward the end of the book:
"It was all very careless and confused. They were careless people, Tom and Daisy -- they smashed up things and creatures and then retreated back into their money or their vast carelessness or whatever it was that kept them together, and let other people clean up the mess they had made..."
If this doesn't remind you of people in our era, then I'm happy for you. But because we're clearly still seeing signs of this mindset in our society today, regardless of just how much money the people in question have, I maintain that Gatsby is still a relevant read.
Gatsby, I think, was a non-traditional materialist: he didn't think all the riches would bring him happiness, but he did think they'd bring him Daisy and, therefore, happiness. He was right on the money (bu dum ching!) when it came to Daisy's skewed priorities, but he didn't realize that those same priorities also skewed her love for him. He admitted at one point that "[h]er voice is full of money;" he simply didn't know it was so full that there was no longer space for him. Gatsby was certain he could "repeat the past," another theme that still fills our culture, by showing Daisy he was even more grand than when they first met. I think his obsession with the past is stronger than his actual love for Daisy; he's mixed up the two, or somehow identified them as the same. Fitzgerald makes it clear that we can't live as if time moving forward doesn't change the people and the world around us, and yet he ends the book by reminding us that we also can't live without the past affecting us.
"...tomorrow we will run faster, stretch our our arms farther...And one fine morning --
So we beat on, boats against the current, borne back ceaselessly into the past."
And finally: the green light, because that's quintessentially Gatsby for so many readers. For a while -- I don't know how long -- I had forgotten how blatant Fitzgerald was about the connection between the green light and Daisy. I only remembered that we discussed it in class, and I often wondered if that was one of the great symbols of literature pointed out in class discussions that I never actually identified in textual evidence myself...but to my pleasant surprise, Fitzgerald really spelled out the whole idea for us. Now I see why so many teachers use it to foster understanding of symbols and figurative language.
So if you haven't read it since high school, or heaven forbid you never read it at all, pick it up immediately. It's short, but it holds a massive impact. Then join me when the movie comes out in December.
***
Next, I jumped into a more modern book, with far more ancient characters. I read American Gods by Neil Gaiman, which follows the story of Shadow and his journey and battles with the gods who traveled to America as immigrants along with their immigrant believers. I thoroughly enjoyed learning more about different culture's religions, myths, and heroes -- which, according to Gaiman, aren't all the same -- and it always makes me feel intelligent when I understand references to other pieces of literature and art speckled throughout. I feel like I can't share with you much about the plot for fear that I will give too much away; the most minute of details could give you a hint that would ruin the many surprises that unfold as the story moves forward. It wasn't the easiest of reads, though, because of the tangents the story took through certain sections and chapters. I think Gaiman wanted to flesh out the whole idea of multiple gods making their way here, staying with their people as long as they believed in them, but I have a hard time caring about characters who aren't really a part of the plot line. I did enjoy the tangents, though, that described rural Illinois as Shadow drove from Chicago to Cairo ("they call that one Kayro") -- the Culver's fast food restaurant, each tiny town's population sign standing right next to their high school athletic claim to fame. And I liked the rants that Sam, an unexpected friend of Shadow's, provided on all the stuff that we believe in this society, both good and bad, both reasonable and illogical. I recommend it if you like stories with twists, and especially if you like mythology (even if it's just what you've learned from Marvel comics and movies).
***
Most recently, I read Barbra Kingsolver's The Bean Trees, which is unlike any book I've ever read. I choose it for a couple reasons -- I loved her novel The Poisonwood Bible (which I read in high school and was my introduction to literature with multiple narrators), the main character changes her name after traveling through my corner of the world, and a friend of mine from work is also reading it right now. Kingsolver didn't let me down.
The novel follows Taylor in the 1980s as she strikes out on her own, moving from her hometown in Kentucky across the Great Plains and the dessert and finally settling in Tuscon. On her journey, she unexpectedly becomes the guardian of a special little girl named Turtle, and the story focuses on how Taylor grows into this new role.
Taylor is a force to be reckoned with. She leads by example and convinces her new friends in Tuscon that if the world is to improve, we cannot be complacent. "What I'm saying is," she says, "you can't just sit there, you got to get pissed off." She doesn't face the evils of the world as a some super hero, though; she battles frustration and hopelessness just like the rest of us. "Sadness," she says, "is more or less like a head cold -- with patience it passes. Depression is like cancer." But in the end, Taylor's determination to do what she can to improve the lives of those she loves breaks through, and she does remarkable deeds in the face of great risk.
Woven in among the plot and inspiration, Kingsolver made me smile to myself as I connected with some of Taylor's experiences. Not only did she pass through towns I know early on in her journey, but she also spoke in a dialect that made me feel right at home. She even quoted little sayings that I've heard a million times in my parents' and grandparents' homes but had never seen in print before. Like some of my friends who'd rather not live in a place where you can see the horizon countless miles away (which my friends know is something I love), Taylor also developed an intense distaste for the Great Plains and all flat ground:
"The sight of it filled me with despair...I had never imagined that any part of a round earth could be so flat. In Kentucky you could never see too far, since there were always mountains blocking the other side of your view, and it left you the chance to think something good might be just over the next hill. But out there on the plain it was all laid out right in front of you, and no matter how far you looked it didn't get any better."
"I believe that flat places are quieter than hilly ones. The sounds of the cars on the highway seemed to get sucked straight out over the empty fields where there was nothing, not even a silo, to stop them from barreling on forever into the night."
Taylor and Turtle even live with a roommate and her son, which is somewhat similar to my situation. Some of their escapades sounded all too familiar, and the friendship that develops between them undoubtedly did.
Without hesitation, I recommend The Bean Trees, and The Poisonwood Bible as well. Kingsolver is an excellent story teller and has a wonderfully unique way with words.
Thursday, July 26, 2012
Chinese Adventure! Final Installment: Shanghai
| Bottle Opener from the ground |
Our first stop was the World Financial Center, also known as the Bottle Opener. It's the second tallest building in the world, measuring an impressive 492 meters high, and we traveled to the 100th floor (out of 101) for a bird's eye view of Shanghai. We began in a room with 5 or 6 feet tall digital numbers on the ceiling, counting down something that we were never informed of.
We then took a very steep escalator up to a stark white floor (where I expected to see a mad scientist walk out in an equally-white lab coat) whose only apparent purpose was to hold tourists waiting to take the next elevator, smaller this time, to our final destination. The 100th floor is 474 meters high and is made completely of glass, giving an excellent view of the city and miles (and miles) beyond.
| Click for full view |
| Looking through the floor |
| Click for full view |
| My favorite picture from the Bottle Opener |
| Monopoly Time! |
| A TV Station |
| Click for full view |
Shanghai seemed much more influenced by Western countries, which makes sense considering its history with both import and export trade. We saw many more signs of home, including 7 Eleven and the YMCA.
| Karaoke! |
That afternoon, we spent a bit of time at a local karaoke; it was very different than karaoke here at home. We rented the entire room, complete with the microphones and TV showing the music videos and lyrics. We had quite the time, and my kids were quite surprised by the number of songs I knew, too.
After another traditional dinner on the lazy susan, we attended the Shanghai Acrobatics Performance. The acrobats were amazing -- some balanced items, others balanced themselves; some threw items, others were thrown. Some were even contortionists, and they were able to create images that none of us could believe were actually happening.
The next day -- our final day in China -- held only a few sites for us but much shopping. First we visited the Jade Buddha Temple, where we took in the beautiful art and witnessed more people practicing their faith.
| View from the Temple |
| One of the Temple buildings |
| Silkworms |
We then took a tour of a silk factory, where we watched women carefully separating silkworm cocoons and weaving them together to create strands and, in the end, beautiful pillows, blankets, handkerchiefs, and more.
| Nan Jing Road |
| Seafood bowl & "Green" Tea |
| Dragon Statue |
| The Yuyuan Market |
The three of us ended our trip to the Bazaar with a purchase at the Dairy Queen; I had a chocolate dipped ice cream cone. Now, I've found that telling some people back here at home this detail just produces a look that says, "You went all the way to Shanghai and ate at a DQ?" My response is this: YES! You see, having grown up in SmallTown, USA, Dairy Queen was the only fast food restaurant in my hometown until about the year 2000. To be able to go from that SmallTown and travel to the other side of the world and have the same chocolate dipped cone that I once had as a 7 year old -- it represents so much. On one hand, it was a cheesy connection, a way of saying that some things transcend cultural boundaries and the Pacific. But on the other, it was a sign of how far I've come; the 7-year-old me would have never dreamed of going to China, of standing -- no, hiking -- the Great Wall, had never even heard of the Terra Cotta Warriors, and had no idea fortune cookies were an American construct. But twenty years later, there I stood, eating the same ice cream cone, and doing all those wonderfully not-so-impossible things. I can think of no better way to celebrate our last day in China.
| Seeing Pudong |
| Monument |
| The Puxi side -- clear Western influence |
After our final dinner in China -- crusted beef, scrambled eggs, noodles, a fish that was wholly in tact, and many other standard dishes of meat in sauce, rice, and veggies -- we prepared for our final excursion: a night cruise along the Huangpu River. While Jackie collected our tickets, we stood on the sidewalk, huddled together as more and more street vendors literally circled around us, shouting not-so-persuasive calls to buy their goods. Paul dubbed these vendors the piranhas, but we were glad to see these piranhas had an attention problem; once they realized none of us were buying, they quickly dispersed. Then it was onto the cruise boat, to see the city all lit up. Jackie told us several times that day that the view would be, "red hot," and it was exactly that. All of the buildings, in both Pudong and Puxi, gave a spectacular lights display of all colors and designs. I stood on the second story of the cruise ship to take pictures as we traveled toward the ocean before moving inside to the sitting room as we traveled back up the river.
| Pudong |
| A bit of home... |
| Puxi |
| Puxi |
| Old Puxi (left) & new Pudong (right) |
| The Staircase of the Cruise Ship |
| The ship's sitting room |
| Click to see full panoramic |
And with that, our tour of China was over. We packed up, left our beautiful hotel early the next morning, and caught our 14 hour flight back to Detroit. The five of us sat in Detroit for over six hours waiting for our flight to Chicago, over two hours longer than we'd originally anticipated. It felt ironic that we were so very close to home compared to where we'd been, and yet we had no way of just going home. We slept off and on at the gate, and our first meal back in the States was a huge cheeseburger at Fudruckers. It seemed apropos at the time. By the time we finally made it to my doorstep at 11:30 that night, we'd had a 36-hour day. The next day I spent hours telling my family all about the trip and showing them the 1300+ pictures, and it took me more days that I'd like to admit to get over the jet lag.
All in all, it was an amazing, fantastic trip, one I will never forget and one that I love telling people about.
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